What Perfumes Remind You Of Mum?

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Post by Portia

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Hello Fancy Fragrance Freaks,

Today I’m feeling a bit nostalgic for my Mum who died back in 2001 of leukaemia. She was an excellent Mum, not perfect of course but perfect for me. Sometimes when I’m cooking the meals she used to regularly make, there was a rotation of about 10 regular dinner meals and a couple of extra special ones, grocery shopping or cleaning the house I will be struck again by what a huge hole she left when she went. Questions that Mum always had the answers to, little bits of quiet advice or even the yelled loudly kind, I still miss them all.

So I thought we could all get in the mood and remember our Mums together through our shared hobby, fragrance.

What Perfumes Remind You Of Mum?

Mum loved fragrance. Not in a perfumista way but in an “It feels so glam to spritz with abandon” way. Never one to spritz the air and wander through mum wanted it on her skin and her scarf, a blazing scent trail riding slightly ahead and half a block behind. Why? Well my Dad was a notoriously stingy bastard and when Mum worked in their Jewellery and Watch shop as the saleswoman for the first few years of their marriage she made Dad get in Gifts as well. These included everything from Lladro and Wedgwood to Fragrance. Because it was good business for the shop person to be wearing the scents they sold the reps would give Mum bottles to liberally spritz and she fell in love with that luxury. For the rest of her life she always had a couple of fragrances in the house and one respritzer in her purse.

So which ones stand out in my memory? I have touched on most of these before in comments and posts but I thought it high time I brought them all together.

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Anais Anais by Cacharel: This was only a one bottle fragrance for Mum because we all laughed so hard at her wearing Anus Anus. It does stand out in memory though because of that. Can’t remember the smell at all.

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CHANEL No 5: Mum LOVED No 5 all the way through her life. It was the ultimate signal of luxury for her and that love has rubbed off on me. It was her “Going Out” fragrance for the big events. If ever Dad was winning awards, or charity events, her golfing dos or big birthdays it would be the waft throughout the house. I remember her hugging us goodbye and introducing us to whatever babysitter we had and CHANEL No 5 was the scent.

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Giorgio Beverly Hills: HA! Even thinking about Giorgio makes me remember Mum’s cars. In my later teen years it was the respritz bottle in her handbag and the car would smell so strongly of it your clothes would basically be dry cleaned in a 10 minute drive. No matter what fragrance I was wearing I’d get out of the car smelling like Giorgio.

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Samsara by Guerlain: I remember buying mum Samsara one Christmas with my pay check from being a Squirt Bitch at the Department Store as a Christmas holiday job. She was so thrilled that I had bought her fragrance and I remember her bragging to her girlfriends at the shop when they noticed her scent. I felt a million miles tall.

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Shalimar by Guerlain: Shalimar wasn’t just my Mum’s perfume, a whole bunch ofd the crew wore it and sometimes sitting in the living room with them was like being in the middle of a Shalimar fumigation. It’s the fragrance I most relate to Mum even though she had other loves. Whenever I spritz its magical oriental dream I am immediately taken back to days when there seemed almost no cares other than swimming, running, biking and eating delicious home cooked meals.

There were a few more but now I want to hear what your mum wore please?
Portia xx

 

 

 

 

84 thoughts on “What Perfumes Remind You Of Mum?

  1. Aw, sorry about your mum. I lost mine in 1999, also to a blood cancer, but you would have been younger than me at the time, which means more years without her. We do miss them when they are gone! And of course mine was Australian as you know. 😉

    I am a bit vague about my mother’s perfume-wearing past, though I found a bottle of Opium in her sponge bag after she died that I had not given her. I DID give her one of Byzance, a thoughtless impulse buy one Christmas (my very bad), but have no idea if she wore it. Unless it is a false memory I have created because I really want her to have worn perfume when I was growing up, I *think* she wore Lentheric Tweed, so will go with that!

    PS I only got interested in fragrance in 2008, hence the above all-round sketchiness. 😉

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      • Hey Vanessa,
        Losing Mum’s is a game changer. All of a sudden you are forced to “ADULT” and find your own way in the world. I basically walked through fog for years after she died.
        Tweed by Lentheric was another respritz bottle that Mum would sometimes have in her purse.
        Though I know it was part and parcel of the times they lived I still find it totally controlling and slavish the way even my very clever, ex-nurse, liberated Mum was treated, especially in terms of money. Grrr, it still makes me mad.
        Portia xx

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  2. I remember smelling my mother’s perfume before she went out at night to her diplomatic functions. Always glamorous, like Cabochard Gres, Ma Griffe by Carven, and Arpege.
    I buy her perfume these days but she says she never goes anywhere to wear it. Drives me nuts that she denies herself a small pleasure for her own self.

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    • Hey JackieB,
      You’re Mum had great frag taste. I remember an Arpege bottle in our house at some point too. YUM.
      Portia xx

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  3. This is timely, my mom and I recently bonded over perfume, since I only recently became interested, and asked to go through ask her perfumes with her and smell them. Her favourites – First by Van Cleef and Arpels, and Amarige by Givenchy. I remember hating both these smells when I was a kid – she was an oversprayer and they were too strong for my nose back then. But she had all the classics, Opium, Dune, Poison, some of which I pilfered (ha ha, perks of being a daughter!)

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    • WOW Jen,
      What a great way to bond with Mum. AND she is a perfumista. totally cool. Now you’ll be able to shop and natter about frags a LOT.
      Portia xx

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  4. Mitsouko. Royal Secret. Givenchy III. Trésor.
    There were more but these really stand out.
    My life has two parts. Before she died, and after she died. Bussis.

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  5. Mom wore L’Air du Temps or Shalimar for daytime and Bal à Versailles for evening or special occasions. Nowadays she wears my castoffs. 🙂 She likes the Burberry Brit and Fendi I gave her a while ago.

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  6. Mum! We love our mums! So sorry about everyone’s mum.
    I lost my mum in 2010. She was loving, smart and wickedly fun!
    Some of her favourites were Poison (I would buy this for her), l’eau de Isley, givenchy iii, Arpege (I still have her bottle), Charlie and l’air du temps. She also had some bottles of amazing altars bought at the street markets. She never wore anais anais because she bought it for me. Along with Hugo woman when I started working:)

    This is a lovey, lovely post; I’m sure to dream of her tonight.

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    • Hi there Jyotsna,
      2010 is close, you must still be grieving.
      Hugging you across the internet.
      What an excellent child buying your Mum Poison. HA! That sentence reads all kinds of wrong.
      Portia xx

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  7. My stingy bastard of a father meant my mum could afford Avon only. Bought her some Tuscany Per Donna years later because she said she liked it but do not know whether she ever wore it.

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    • Hey AnnieA,
      Tuscany per Donna is yum, I wore the mens version for a couple of bottles. Those were the days.
      Fathers can be very naughty.
      Portia xx

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  8. Hi Portia, I love the way you write about your mum. She must have been an amazing woman. I remember my mom going through a phase where she wor Opium, then Louis Scherrer. These days she loves getting decants and bottles from me and wears them with such joy. Sandra xoxo

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    • Hey Sandra,
      I thought Mum was the sun, moon and stars. We were besties from a very early age and I was a terror, she was majestic through all of my bullshit.
      I LOVE Louis Scherrer. So good. Bet she gets excited when you send her a package.
      Portia xx

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  9. I still have mom with me. The three scents she wears: Jovan Musk, Alfred Sung and Santa Maria Novella Carnation or Bellodgia.

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    • Lucky you Gina,
      Your Mum has great taste. Especially Bellodgia which is one of my faves, so I love to see it mentioned.
      Portia xx

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  10. Mom did not wear perfume. She thought it was frivolous. Ha! But my favorite aunt wore Dana Tabu and Lanvin My Sin. Loved those two!

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  11. Dear Portia, My Mother passed away in 2004 holding my hand. I miss her terribly everyday and for all the reasons you mentioned, but especially when I’m feeling troubled or when my kids are looking to me for answers to life’s questions. She was an amazing woman and everyone who met her fell in love with her. I never heard her say anything unkind about anyone. I don’t remember my father ever getting my mother fragrance, but I did. She liked Cabochard, occasionally wore LouLou, but she really really loved Opium. It is the scent I most associate with her. Once I bought it for her, it became her signature scent day and night. When I opened her closet,after she was gone, all her clothes had retained some of that fragrance. When I spray Opium and close my eyes, I can feel her presence.

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    • Hey Ellen M.,
      How did our Mums know so much? There was no internet, mine finished school in year 10 and went Nursing before she got married but she had an answer to every question. I am now the age she was when I was about 15 and I don’t know a damn thing.
      Opium, that’s my BFFs Mums scent and I buy her bottles of vintage.
      Portia xx

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      • Dear Portia, Your post has touched so many and brought back so many memories. My parents came through the Great Depression in the USA and I think that they learned many lessons from dealing with its hardships(I came along much later). My father became a mean and stingy person, yet my mother stayed with him until he died. That was what you did then and I imagine she learned much by having to live with him. She was a truly joyful person and so little made her happy. Finding fragrances for her or even replenishing her supply of Opium was a gift for me as well as for her.

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        • Thanks EllenM,
          Yes, my Dad was a good deal older than Mum and had gone through the tail ends of the depression here in Australia. It really taught them to be frugal and how to deal with little.
          I love that you acknowledge that gifting brought you both joy. It always does, doesn’t it.
          Portia xx

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  12. Beautiful post, Portia. My mom died this past February She came to Canada in 1954 and, with my dad, homesteaded on a quarter section of land in northern Alberta. There was never much money on the farm so her luxury at that time was perfume she brought from Europe, 4711 – my grandmother’s scent as well – which reminded her of home in Germany. She wore that pretty much exclusively, she told me until 1971. I was 5 years old when my grandmother came to visit. I had never met her and my strongest memory was of the bars of Maja soap and the Maja perfume she brought as a gift for the daughter she had not seen in 17 years. It was exotic and glorious yo my nose. However, once it was used up mom went right back to her beloved 4711. Then, in 1994 my mom’s sister came from Switzerland, brining a large bottle of perfume and right up to the end her CK Eternity would burn off my nose hairs on Sundays and any special occasion. Many Christmas turkeys tasted soapy from that moment forward. Miss my mom and her fragrant cloud of wonderfulness
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    • Anita,
      I’m sorry to hear you lost your Mum this year. What a bummer.
      Super great story though. Do you ever spritz Eternity in her honour?
      Portia xx

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  13. My Mom wore one perfume only – as long as she and I were on the same plane. That was Jean Patou’s Moment Supreme. She said it was her first perfume – given her by a beau in her late teens – and she never switched. My Dad would go into town (NYC) and buy it for her once a year.

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  14. My mom died in 1996, 20 years ago this summer. I must have been in a grief-fog for a decade, because I remember being in my late 30s; next thing I knew, I was in my 50s & didn’t know how I got that old.
    My mom wore Dana Tabu before I was born, & I remember an empty Arpege or My Sin dusting powder box, so probably that too. When I was little, I remember Tailspin by Lucien Lelong (loved those war-club bottles), then EL Youth Dew & Clinique Aromatics Elixir. Also Caswell-Massey Purple Sage. Bill Blass & Oscar de la Renta in her final years.
    We were below the poverty level, and perfume was her one luxury. I’ve inherited her love of orientals, but still can’t get around the “cola” note in Tabu & Youth Dew.

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    • Hi JulieF,
      Yes, the grief-fog will steal you away. It’s like those stories of meeting fairies and coming back forever changed. Living like an automaton until something wakes you up.
      Your Mum had marvellous frag taste, no wonder you’re a perfumista.
      Portia xx

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  15. My heart aches for you and everyone missing their mums.

    I’m from a different generation so my mother wore long-gone classics; the one I remember most was Jean d’Albert’s Eccuson, which was a little similar to Chanel No 5. She and my father went through good and bad times, so perfume was a luxury and she didn’t have any to wear in the lean periods, but when the money was rolling in she and dad would live it up; I remember her leaning over me to kiss me goodnight and I would huff that lovely perfume as her mink (!) coat brushed my cheeks ad they tootled off to expensive restaurants ….. Years later I would buy her perfume and I introduced her to Shalimar, which she loved.

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    • Hey Jillie,
      It’s interesting to look back on a family’s life in a paragraph. I bet in your head the difference between a flush mum and a lean one was the way she smelled. Interesting that you have become a perfumista. Do you feel flush when you spritz? I do.
      Portia xx

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  16. What a lovely post and touching comments! My mum is still alive, but barely — she is in a long slow decline from a stroke, bedridden and mostly unresponsive. It is so sad to see her like this, as she was a beautiful, headstrong, independent woman her whole life until then. Her special perfume was Chanel No. 5. I wrote about trying to help her enjoy it again in a blog post called “My Mother’s Last Perfume.” Like some other commenters here, I took great pride in saving up my money as a young teen to buy her the smallest available purse spray of it. She really did love that, it made her happy that I thought of such a gift. I also remember her wearing Norell, and Opium when it first came out. Also EL White Linen, and, briefly, Poison when it first came out. She didn’t care for Poison and passed along her bottle to me. But No.5 is the scent I most associate with her, and the evenings when she and my father went out to some big event or for an “occasion.” I can’t wear No. 5 myself because it’s “hers” but I recently discovered No. 5 Eau Premiere, and I happily enjoy that.

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    • Hey Old Herbaceous,
      We are all with you in the long last stretch darling. Nothing we can do but be here. Wishing you loads of strength and hugging you across the internet. How utterly shitty for you.
      She does have excellent scent sense, you’ve got to be pretty proud of that.
      Portia xx

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  17. What a warm and lovely remembrance, Portia. My Mom was rather subdued with her perfumes. She did not spray with abandon and pretty much stuck to two perfumes: Maja in the summer and Joy the rest of the year. I still use Maja soap to this day, and the sight of the black and red wrapping with the flamenco dancer still makes me catch my breath a bit. Xoxo

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    • Hey Robert,
      We had Maja soaps in our drawers, the whole family. I still scent my drawers with soaps, even have Maja in my undies currently. What a wonderful scent it is. Interesting that your Mum wore total price polarities.
      Portia xx

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  18. I was a kid in 80s so I don’t remember what my mom wore in 80s but my sister tells me one was Givenchy (maybe le dix or something like that) and the other probably poison. But I do remember my mom wore quite unconventional ones in the late 90s such as Eau Sauvage Extreme and Valentino Vendetta Uomo.

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  19. I lost my mother in Sept 2015 and my heart is filled with similar feelings and memories you have described in your post.

    As a single mother raising 2 children in Australia during the late 60’s & early 70’s mum didn’t have much money. Her first perfume was Lentheric Tweed and when I was about 12 she splurged on a bottle of EL Youth Dew, however, she bought the bath oil as she could just dab on a few drops as it had great longevity. Given her limited finances she figured she got more value for money that way.

    Two weeks ago I managed to purchase a vintage bottle of Tweed and it is exactly the same as one I would have bought for her birthday all those years ago. When I opened it and sprayed I felt the tears well up and just sat with all those memories and emotions that fragrance draws from the deep within us.

    It was both sad but incredibly comforting as closing my eyes and inhaling the scent I can feel her lovely angel arms wrapped around me 😇 ♡

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    • Hey Gail Williams,
      September 2015! So basically yesterday. Good luck with the roller coaster that grief brings.
      Excellent that you have a scent to place you firmly in her memories.
      I hope those memories stay close and cherished.
      Portia xx

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  20. I love how you always point out the special relationship you had with your mum Portia. Mothers are irreplaceable! Mine is still alive but rather old and I try to enjoy every moment we spend together in good health.
    One perfume she liked the most – Fete by Molyneaux. Since it was long ago discontinued, she later wore E.Lauder Private Collection, Paloma Picasso, Tresor… I wish I could surprise her with a bottle of Fete but I can’t find it anywhere 😦

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  21. My mum passed away in 2013 at 79 after a battle with the Big C. I think about her every single day. Her perfumes were First, Caleche, and in the later years Red Door, which I know many people dislike intensely, but I cannot, its MUM ….

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    • Hey Virginia,
      Of course you can’t, I have a few mates who still wear Red Door. Nothing wrong with loving what you love, or your Mum did.
      Sorry your Mum has gone. HUG
      Portia xxx

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  22. My mother used Arpège and Chanel No. 5. I think she only wore them when going out so I don’t have strong memories of them. My grandmother always had her bottle of Youth Dew, and while she didn’t wear it often, she sprayed with abandon when she did. My other grandma died before I was born, so my great-aunts filled the grandma gap on that side. One of them loved and always had White Shoulders. They always bought sets, too: eaux, dusting powder, maybe bath oil? Sets were big back then —

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    • Hi Empliau,
      Sets were big for gifting around our house. Mum would often get gift sets from the shop to give to her buddies and family. Always well received. I love them too.
      Portia xx

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  23. What a lovely post Portia – thank you for sharing! ❤ The fragrances I remember my mother wearing in my childhood were Jean D'Albret Princesse, Laura Ashley No. 1 and Nina Ricci Farouche (she was clearly into her white florals!). I also remember her talking about her love for Jean Patou's Joy, as she'd fallen head over heels for it when one of her colleagues had worn it at work – however it was difficult to find in my country at the time and very expensive, so she never ended up owning a bottle. The latest scent she purchased for herself was Laura Biagiotti 's Roma, which sadly triggered a fragrance allergy that's prevented her from wearing anything scented ever since. I recently found a vintage bottle of Oscar de la Renta's Oscar and she really loved it, so now she's thinking about trying to wear just a little spritz on her clothing.

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    • Hi there Hanna,
      I LOVE Farouche, what a grande scent it is.
      Your poor Mum, nice to know she is finding ways around her allergy,
      Portia xx

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      • It really is a great one! I once passed on a large extrait in the Lalique bottle and still regret that – will not be making that mistake again! I’m really glad she’s getting back into fragrances even if in a small way… her skin reacts very badly to certain ingredients and it would be difficult to find out exactly which ones. I’m kind of dreading the same thing happening to me and tend to limit my use of scented products, apart from perfume of course – then I go all out! 🙂

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        • It’s not such an uncommon occurrence. I’m pretty sure my skin problems would ease up if I just laid off the scent but I would rather have them than be unfragranced.
          Even Birgit from Olfactoria’s Travels had to give up perfume because she started getting asthma.
          Portia xx

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  24. I love reading all these wonderful stories; only our mothers really know a part of us that no one else can. Both my parents are nearing their end and I take care of them. My mom also wore Anais Anais for a time, and Aliage in the 70s, but L’air du Temps is what I remember most. She quit wearing perfume a long time ago but since I started branching out ten years ago I take things for her to smell and give her decants, another thing to bond over. We both enjoy that.. Aging takes everything away, all independence, and it’s hard to watch. I’ll miss her terribly when she’s gone.

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    • Hi there Rosarita313,
      I love that you and Mum share your scented passion. Getting old can be absolutely soul destroying, it’s hard to watch. She’s lucky to have you.
      Portia xx

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  25. Such a lovely post; thank you for sharing. I always wonder how I became such a perfume lover because my mother only had one perfume, L’Air du Temps, and she rarely wore it. She couldn’t be less interested in makeup and perfume, so this apple fell far, far away from that tree!

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    • HA! Calshopper that is interesting. Good on you for breaking the mood.
      It’s nice to share Mum stories. Makes me all warm & fuzzy.
      Portia xx

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  26. What a lovely and touching pst, thank you for sharing with us. My mom is still living and she wears many different fragrancs. But Burberry eau de parfum and Thierry Mugler Alien remind me of her so much that I will not buy those exact fragrances for myself, I only buy like the flankers of some fragrances she wears. I like that they remind of her, I guess I always want keep those in my mind as her signature scents.

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    • Hey Nelle,
      That’s really cool. scent twin adjacent. I like it. Lucky you to still have Mum. Hug her from us.
      Portia xx

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  27. My mother died in 2011 from lymphoma and had given up wearing proper perfume many years before. However, I will forever associate with her with Madame Rochas – the scent she wore when I was growing up. Just seeing that brocade box is quite nostalgic and brings to mind memories of theatrical make-up (she worked in theatre), Ultima II gold eyeshadow and 70s caftans (somehow, I don’t think that this was the madam that Rochas had in mind). Funny thing is, I have no actual scent memory of the fragrance. Probably just as well because I now have a few vintage bottles of my own and am happy to wear this wonderful Guy Robert creation without feeling like my mother’s scent ghost. She did have great taste!

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    • Hey Clare,
      Sorry about your Mum going in 2011.
      Madame Rochas!! Scott and I agree that it’s a bloody ripper of a scent. I also have one of the Gold Tone intense bottles. Very Ra Cha Cha.
      Portia xx

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  28. We lost my mother earlier this year. She always wore Estee Lauder Beautiful, so I associate that one with her. But I also think of her when I wear a tea fragrance, because she just loved a cup of tea. L’Artisan Tea For Two is one that brings her to mind, as does Masque Russian Tea.

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    • Sorry Greg,
      What a complete bummer. How are you holding up?
      T42 is one of my favourite scents. How magical that it conjures your Mum, she must have been super special.
      Portia xx

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      • Holding up OK now Portia, thanks. I miss her deeply every now and again – especially her birthday, mother’s day and no doubt christmas. Still, my memories are all good ones.

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  29. What a lovely post, and what wonderful tributes to mothers here! I’ve loved reading them.

    I have been lucky enough to still have my mom, and both grandmothers into their early 90s, and what a precious experience that has been.

    My mother always wore No. 5 parfum as her “dressed up” fragrance, though her everyday one was Jovan Musk for Women. She went through stages of wearing Anais Anais as well, then Coty L’Effleur and Eliz Arden 5th Avenue. Now she’s back to No. 5, in the body creme which is just sumptuous and more beautiful on her than even the parfum I gave her for Christmas a few years ago. She always smells very warm and cuddly.

    I sometimes wonder what my children will remember my wearing, since I switch it up so often.

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    • Hey Mals86,
      Great to see you.
      Lucky Duck still having your Mum, and her being a lavishly scented one too.
      I bet they remember you in Le Temps d’une Fête. I think of you whenever I spritz it and we’ve never met except through your blog. (Muse In Wooden shoes gang, go look)
      Portia xx

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  30. What lovely memories you have. Hold them close in your heart where your Mum will always be.
    My Mom was not huge into perfume but I do recall her wearing White Shoulders and Joy.
    I think my favorite scent memory of her is her wearing Faberge Tigress. I was very young and liked playing with the furry cap.

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      • Portia,
        This is from Fragrantica. I haven’t smelled it in years but love to again. What do you think?

        Tigress is a classic Faberge perfume, launched in 1938. The stopper of the bottle is designed in fake tiger fur. The perfume is an oriental fougere with aldehyde, citrus, floral and spicy notes, oak moss, vanilla and amber. The face of the advertising campaign is the “black tigress” Lola Falan.

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  31. Hi Portia, what a moving post. I really enjoyed Reading it. Miss Dior and Beautiful would be two and my mother loved Chanel N5 as well although she did not wear it regularly. Xxx Esperanza

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    • Thanks esperanza,
      Always nice to see you at APJ. How’s your blog doing?
      Your Mum had super great taste. YUM! Such huggable fragrances.
      Portia xx

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