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Portia
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Hello Fellow Fumies,
Every Saturday we have a Question, an idea purloined from Olfactoria’s Travels. Everyone gets to chime in with an answer, chat with other responders and it is a fun event each week. Taking sides never means taking offence and everyone keeps it respectful and light, even though we can sometimes trawl the depths.
The idea is you’ll see it on the weekend or chime in through the week. Hopefully you will come back and see if anyone has responded to your comment and you can reply to them.
Saturday Question: Which Fragrance Does Your Partner Love?
Most of us have partners who shake their heads in bewildered fascination or horror at our unreasonable lust for perfume collection. Some even have partners who are uncomfortable around a lot of fragrance and who suffer our addiction on a multitude of levels. Jin finds a few of my fragrances give him very uncomfortable prickles in the nose and a few have even induced nightmares.
So this makes the fragrances they love even more special and important. The ones they notice happily, snuggle in for or that are downright fabulously dangerous to wear around them. Today I’m wondering what your partners really like that you wear.
My Answer:
Jin is a funny one. He rarely outright compliments a fragrance after all this time together. Almost the only times I hear what he thinks about my fragrance is if it irritates him in some way. Fairly standard partner stuff I’m sure.
When I wear Neela Vermeire Mohur and he picks it I get a happily surprised reaction. He likes it, thinks I smell particularly good in it, is also really happy when he can pick it and feels quite impressed with himself.
Guerlain Samsara is another one he compliments most of the times I wear it. It’s not that often so the wear to compliment ratio is pretty high. I have some old parfum that is particularly lush and just a half spritz of it smells fabulous.
Hey All .. Am I the first to answer? Yippeee.
My ‘partner’ is my hubby of 22 years. He really likes Tobacco Vanille , Coromandal, Amber Absolute, YSL’s M7 Oud Absolu, orig. Obsession for men, and Dark Obsession.
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OOOH Yay for Saffyishere,
Yay also for Mr Here./ He has excellent taste. Does he ever steal a spritzes of his faves from you?
Portia xx
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I like those too! Orientals yumm!
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I read somewhere that vanilla type scents are popular with blokes, and maybe this is true chez moi. Mr B likes Blue Amber by Montale a lot, also Cuir Beluga and Volutes. This is good!
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I like his style JackieB,
Nice cross section too. My mate Scotty smells To Die For in Volutes. Totally glam.
Portia xx
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Mr b has good taste
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I think that is so true! Both my husband and son have commented favorably when I wear a fragrance that has vanilla in it, and so have male strangers back in the day.
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The only perfume my husband likes/loves/could pick out of a lineup if his life depended on it is Carnal Flower. Works every time.
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Hi there Empliau,
lovely to see you and Carnal Flower is a wonderful fave. So divinely decadent.
Portia xx
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Does your husband wear Carnal Flower himself , or he likes to smell it on you?
It is a glorious choice, btw.
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He wears Taylor of Old Bond Street Sandalwood Shave Cream – he would never apply cologne, but the Taylor Sandalwood is extremely sexy on him. The Carnal Flower is all for me. Whenever I want his attention I put it on. It has never failed me yet!
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Is Jin related to Mr. Marzipan? because my hubs also usually just comments to tell me something is “too strong”!
However, he commented that I smelled great on our first date and I was wearing Gap Heaven. I wore it during our first year of courtship exclusively because anything else I attempted to wear he did not like. I am down to my last bottle of that d/c beauty. Cassieflower told me they sell for a song on ebay so I am seriously considering a back up bottle (Cassieflower, you get an enabler pin from me!)
and then there is Mx…first time I tested it he said “What are you wearing? Smells like an 80s perfume”. He will ask me to wear that sample when he is feeling frisky …guess he likes that one too!
and you already know he does not wear fragrance anymore but he will wear St. Clair Scents First Cut for ME when I am feeling frisky…it smells absolutely freaking amazing on him and one small spray on his chest lasts 12 hours!!!!
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Hey Brigitte,
Aren’t they funny. You own how many incredibly fascinating scents and he loves a GAP frag.
What is Mx?
I hope the feeling frisky doesn’t last as long as St. Clair Scents First Cut for ME, that would really annoy me. He He he
Portia xx
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Mx is Barbara Hermann’s brand, Eris Perfumes. And P, you are hilarious!!!
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And ME means me… Brigitte..I can see we had an Assam of India moment just now LOL 🤣 😂
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I’ve been a widow for over 18 years, but I’m looking forward to all your replies !!!!
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Are there any fragrances that the male members of the family compliment you on? You have some beautiful fragrances!!!!
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Not really, my son lives in Scotland so I don’t see him on a regular basis. I don’t think he would notice anyway.I mentioned on the other thread about my sister’s partner making a show of his hay fever,blaming it on my perfume. I don’t think that counts !!!!!
But my 7 year old great grandson gave me a hug last week and said “Nanna you smell nice” . I can’t remember what I was wearing.
I have to rely on my daughter and Grandaughters…..I’ve mentioned them before. They love perfume.
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that compliment from your grandson is priceless 🙂
I love that you are cultivating a new generation of perfumistas!
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I certainly am.. My 10year old Great Grandaughter loves perfume as well.I buy her tiny bottles, usually cheap and cheerful. She loves them.
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Wow! That is truly multigenerational!!!!
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It’s lovely when somebody appreciates your fragrance.
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You are training up the great-grandchildren right! Little boys and girls are so sweet when they pay compliments — completely honest, with no agenda. And the better we smell, the more hugs we are likely to get, from young and old!
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I get pretty frequent compliments from my husband on my perfumes, so I can’t say there’s any one he especially loves. It’s easier to cite the few that got negative comments: Tauer’s Le Maroc pour Elle, « that’s really strong! » and Annick Goutal Petite Chérie, « Don’t wear that one again. ». He also didn’t care for Angel Muse and said Mon Guérlain smelled nice but not « me. »
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I have never worn that Tauer in the house because it is nuclear even on my scent eating skin… gorgeous though and very unique.
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Hey TaraC,
Lucky you!
If he has only nixed 4 then you are so lucky. Do you still wear them when he’s not around?
Portia xx
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Petite Cherie? Wow..these menfolk are odd lol. I’d have thought of that list that the Goutal would be the least offensive.
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My husband Ron rarely notices my scent. But he adores Jo Malone Pomegranate noir and never fails to say something when I wear it. I also just got some Clive Christian X for women and he has so far also complimented me every time I have worn it!
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I’ve been single for nine years now so I’ll just read what you got to say 🙂
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You have such an amazing collection of vintage that you will always get a compliment from me 🙂
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Thank you, darling, your kind words mean a lot to me! It’s really nice to having finally found a community that is equally welcoming to all sorts of perfumes (vintage luxury houses, rarest niche and occasional celebrity scent) and more importantly, people.
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I agree…I LOOOVVVEEEE APJ and I love Portia for bringing us together…the fact that we are literally from all over the world , different ages, different walks of life and we can come together and laugh and chat about more than just perfume all week long makes this place very special to me.
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Here’s to all of us on APJ!
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I so agree with you Brigitte. APJ is a very special place for me as well.
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Reading this comment has made me cry….
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Hi there Diana,
I hope it’s happily single. Until Jin came along single was where I felt most comfortable.
Portia x
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Hey Portia! Yes, I’ve been rather happy, I’m quite self-sufficient and I know more about my wishes and boundaries now. After I got divorced at 24 I spent a couple years dealing with post-marriage PTSD (we were two drama queens, to say the least), and I haven’t really met the right person which is fine with me. Met two wrong ones, though, not gonna fall for that again.
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Hi Portia, Carl is quite picky with what he wears but does not say much about my perfume choices unless I am wearing Mohur, Cuir Beluga, Shalimar or Chanel No 5. Those are the ones that he loves on me. Have a wonderful weekend. Hugs to you both. Sandra xo
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Carl has similar tastes to Mr b, especially the Guerlains! You have trained him well.
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HeySandra,
Cuir Beluga has had a few hits tonight. I’m going to go out of my way to wear it this week and see if Jin notices.
Portia x
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Cuir d’Ange is a big love. Otherwise he doesn’t really care. He likes the scene and the people he has met as much as any perfume. Mwah. xxxx
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Waves to Mr CQ!
Cuir d’Ange! lovely choice.
The frag scene has been life changing for us all.
Portia xx
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Hello all. My other half has very little sense of smell and he’s colour blind, so he can rarely appreciate either my fragrances or my colour-changing eyes!
He was very supportive of the start of this adventure, however, which was to find a bottle of Tendre Poison 10 years after it was discontinued. Now I get a slightly different reaction when parcels arrive!
The first time I wore Cuir Altesse, however, I did get a positive reaction, but reactions are rare!
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Hi there Sue,
Tendre Poison! I buy that when I see it for our girlfriend Alice. It’s one of her go-tos. Getting VERY hard to find nowadays.
Cuir Altesse is so good! It’s not often we read about those frags here. Thanks for the reminder.
Portia xx
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Thanks so much, Portia. You’re right, Tendre Poison is hard to find. Sometimes I feel like curling myself around mine like a dragon guarding its hoard.
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His nibs likes the spicy scents, loves Opium and Coco especially. Though occasionally he will comment on a floral. His own frags are mostly spicy too. He wears Spicebomb very well, and his current favourite is Aramis Calligraphy.
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Hey Cassieflower,
Woo Hoo! So basically you can go wild with your fragrances. Opium and Coco are the big guns.
Did you find him the Aramis or did he search it out?
Portia xx
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Just like virtually everything else he puts on his person it was bought by me😀
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I have never paid any attention to Spicebomb….perhaps I should? Waves to ‘nibs’
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Has he (or you) tried Aramis Calligraphy Rose? I really love it. Haven’t tried the regular Calligraphy but I’ve read that it’s terrific.
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Haven’t tried that one yet. Is it very rosy?
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To me Rose Calligraphy is like a rose concoction, very rich and resinous. It seems to be in a similar vein as Amouage’s Lyric pour femme but Lyric is less spicy (and got more incense).
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Those Calligraphy scents have had me intrigued for a long time; must put them on the sample list. Thanks for the reminder.
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cassieflower, my Dad says ‘his nibs’ or ‘her nibs’; I don’t think I have heard anyone else other than my grandmother say that! Do know where the phrase comes from?
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Not sure where it originated but I’ve always heard it used for as long as I can remember.
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Just found this snippet
A: “His nibs” or “her nibs” is an informal expression used to refer to a “person in authority, especially one who is self-important,”
I won’t mention this to him or he might get big ideas😀
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Thanks, cassieflower. I wouldn’t give him any big ideas, either!
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My nice husband likes just about anything he has bought for me, even when I haven’t given him specific suggestions, lol. He picked out Blasted Bloom for me, by himself, and we both love it. He notices and likes scents that include vanilla, lately Shalimar Cologne (the 2015 one, which I recently got and am LOVING). He and my teenaged son both like Montale’s Intense Cafe, which I think has brought me the most unsolicited compliments from them and others in the last two years. He tends to prefer scents with some floral notes, even if they aren’t dominant.
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Interesting OH,
How exciting for you to have a partner genuinely interested in how you smell and even a player on your collection team.
Shalimar Cologne is very nice. Intense Cafe is a really cool pick for a non perfumista, snaps to him.
Portia xx
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He’s a sweetheart and very tolerant of my varied interests. To be accurate, I first got Intense Cafe in a Scentbird subscription, but then he liked it enough to buy me the full bottle, so yes, he gets snaps! It’s one of the scents that has led a complete stranger to approach me and ask what I’m wearing. I do feel lucky that my beloved is happy to share my enjoyment in discovering fragrances.
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I am so jealous 😁
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I like the fact that your husband buys perfume that you might like to wear, not just the one he would like to smell.
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Yes, sometimes he asks before one of his trips if there is anything specific I might like; now that he knows a few lines that I consistently like (Penhaligon’s, for example), he will venture to their counter or store while traveling and pick something he thinks I will like based on past successes. A recent hit was Penhaligon’s Elisabethan Rose, which he chose completely on his own.
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You have scored a keeper there. Have you tried Equinox bloom?
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I mostly get happy tolerance. There are a few things I’ve worn that, on the first outing, get a pointed question or a semi-negative comment (Rozy smelling like bug spray or medicine, Rentless being too hippy-patchouli) but… if I wear them a few more times it usually mutates into “oh, you smell nice” or “I like that”, or, in the case of Rentless, it moves across to his side of the perfume niche when I’m not looking…
There are only a few things that have got wholehearted, unprompted positives first time around, including Kiste (“comforting”), and Zoologist’s Civet.
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“It moves across to his side of the perfume niche when I’m not looking”….priceless!!!! This happens a lot in my house as you already know but it is always a mini marzipan and usually not my hubs doing it.
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Late to the discussion – fundraiser yesterday – but the only perfume my husband has ever commented on is SJP Covet. I did go through a phase of wearing it regularly but he seemed to like it. He doesn’t have much of a sense of smell, sadly, so he doesn’t comment much but is very tolerant of my obsession! (Even wanted to know if there was a local perfume store that I liked for gift card purposes – unfortunately there is none!)
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Your husband is quite thoughtful. By the way, I wore Covet almost every day when I bought my bottle, there’s something addictive about it.
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Well, if he likes Covet then I think he’s got a pretty good nose really. What a fun and weird one he picked to like MMKinPA.
SO thoughtful! Jin used to buy me gift amounts for POSH PEASANT! I loved them.
Portia xx
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Are Posh Peasant still in existence? I have brought from them in the past.
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No, they closed their doors a couple of years back. Bummer eh?
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